Holding on or letting go?

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One question that I’ve always found to bother me is who is stronger, the one who keeps holding on tightly, in the name of hope, or the one who lets everything go, not knowing what lies ahead.
I mean to address this question in context to life and death, or rather continuing to live, or committing suicide. Suicide, is a word that is not so uncommon these days. Why? It is because our lives have become so complex and situations tend to get out of control. But wait, is it that our lives have become complex, or that we have made them?
In today’s first moving world, the biggest driving or motivating force is competing. It is a natural desire within all of us to be better than the rest, to be the best and beat everybody else. This being the biggest driving force is so commonly found everywhere, you would find competition between kids belonging to 1st grade, because we are taught from the very beginning that this world is competitive. It is, and it’s not a bad thing that it is. It should be, but to that extent where the minds of people get so pressurised that they feel ending their lives is the only way out? Certainly not.

Getting back to the question, when things get out of hand, when we are in a situation from which it is getting harder and harder to escape, should we choose to not give up and keep looking, or should we choose to end it all at once? Which option makes us stronger? To be honest, I’ve felt that both of these options require a huge amount of courage. Trying to make things better, to make them work and having faith and hope in various complex situations that life puts in front of us requires just as much strenght and courage as deciding to quit, and to end everything. After all, we are afraid of death just as much as we are afraid of living.
Both of these being equally courageous decisions for me does not mean that I am promoting suicide, or asking people to let go if that is what they feel like. I am just trying to express my disbelief in the statement “People who commit suicide are cowardly.” How can this statement be true, or false? Who are we to have opinion about a situation that we weren’t even in? Nobody. So, how can we say that they are cowardly? Have we been there? No.
As easy as an answer it may seem to the complexity of life, it is not. It never was.
Yes, I agree that there are many times in our lives when we want to give up, but all I want to say is that is not the only option we have. In all the situations, no matter how grave, there is always a way out. It takes a while to find that way, but believe me, it is always there, and it always has been. You just need to be patient enough. Because there is always a bright day around the corner, there is always a chance of rainbow showing itself after a massive storm. There is always hope.

But of course, people think differently. If you have any opinions that you would like to share, please feel free to leave a comment.

The Bumpy Road

At some point in our life, we have all fallen down. Walking on the bumpy road of life, full of ups and downs, confusing curves and risky turns, we fall down at one point or the other. And we don’t just fall once, we fall many times. The road is made that way, to make you fall. When you’re down, you may not get the concept of life, you may even curse it, which is pretty natural. Sometimes, we just lose it, sometimes, it just becomes hard to believe in living anymore, and we tend to doubt the point of our existence.
But the road of life is bumpy for a reason, and it’s not just your path that is this confusing. Everybody has it this way. These bumps, these ups and downs, and these turns exist for a reason. They are our best teachers, because they provide experience. If you had never tripped over a bump, would you have known that you have the power to stand back up again? Would you have known to be careful the next time in avoiding such times? Of course you would. DId you learn? Yes, you did.

We sometimes feel others have it easier than us, which, I believe, is true. Some do have it easier than others. But why should that stop you? If you cover your path with twice as much bumps, and reach the same place as the one who had it easy, who is the winner? You are, because you were able to reach the same place, and you were able to overcome twice as much difficulties, which makes you the stronger one. That is something to be proud of. In some cases, these bumps even take us higher than others. What we must keep in mind is that eventually, there is no easy way to the end of the road, or the achievement of your goal. You’re gonna fall, you’re gonna trip, you might even stop for a while, wanting to give up.
This very moment, where you have to decide whether to get back up, and reach the end of the road, or whether to give up and go back, this defines who you are, and this point, common to all paths, is the most crucial point, and determines the very purpose of the road. For if there had been no difficulties, and a choice between getting back up or giving up, we wouldn’t realise our purpose of existence, we wouldn’t realise how far we can go, and we wouldn’t realise the amount of strength and passion we have. This point, this crucial moment is to be savoured, because it might never come back. Some people fail to savour it, and get lost in their own paths.

Our paths consist of bumps, because had they been simple, and straight, we would never have realised our potential and what we can do. Then, we would have simply walked and reached the end of the road. Does the fruit taste better when it is given to you, or when you climb that tree and get it for yourself? Something to think about.